First Date Chat - Dating Conversation Topics to get a Second Date.
March 27, 2008
First date conversation that will create a second date is your goal. We all dread the moment on a first date when you both dry up, without warning it goes silent for what seems forever, and now your minds gone blank!
One of the biggest fears when on a first date is what are we going to talk about? Imagine the conversation has dried up on a date, you both sit there staring at each other, one of you panics and fills the air with a daft comment or continuous chat about nothing, and now both of you just want to get the hell out of there!
On a first date dating conversation topics are less important than how you conduct yourself. If you combine a confident presence through body language with great conversation, then you have the making of a great person to date because you will help your date to feel comfortable in your company. Get them comfortable first and then help them to like you by showing interest in them. OK so this sound great but but what will be a great conversation for this person I don’t know?
First date questions
On a date we just want to come across as interesting, funny or have some interesting points to make. Basically we just want to liked and not just for our looks. Intelligence is an attractive quality, and we know it! The bottom line is, we just want to feel good about ourselves on the date.
First date questions to avoid.
As a rule of thumb for a first date, don’t cover religion or politics as this kind of topic usually generate a heated debate, which if not handled with the utmost care will result in disagreement or worse an argument. What you are after is a date full of agreements, anything that will create a positive vibe without controversy.
Never talk about past relationships unless asked, and if asked keep it short and be honest without being critical. To many your relationship history will be important, it might come up so be prepared.
Men have a tendency to think that women will be interested in what he has got, such as a big house or a flash car and big salary. To a man this could mean he is generating security for her. Most women will resent the fact that he thinks she needs supporting, and she will feel he’s just showing off. A woman knows that a rich man does not equal a great partner. The thought of money on tap is inviting, but will have the opposite affect if presented overtly early on. The first date questions a woman is looking for relates to her emotions such as“will this man look after all her emotional needs” this is something a man can’t buy, as it takes effort. She wants to be a man focus.
A relationship is all about emotions. If you know that “someone falls in love with you because of how they feel about themselves when they are with you” then this will help to guide you with what to say. It’s easy, make the person feel looked after and special, show an interest in them and you have got it made!
First date questions & dating conversation topics
People like people that are interested in them. This creates a good feeling. Gather as much information about your date before you meet. Think of the type of questions you could ask based on the information you have so far. Whatever they are interested in will be a great topic. Remember, if you ask questions that will result in a “yes” or a “no” then you will kill the conversation dead so avoid this.
Ask open-ended questions such as “what’s your experience of online dating?” is better than “do you enjoy online dating?” which could just result in a “yes or no”. This will generate a flowing conversation that will sprout other topics, this feels good as you both share experiences.
People love people with a great sense of humour, it’s one of the most attractive qualities you can bring to a first date. If you make your date laugh (I don’t mean tell jokes) the chances of a second date are very high, because laughing makes people feel great about themselves.
Dating conversation topics That will give you more information and could even help you with future surprises.
- Travel and places they’ve been to and any that they’ve always wanted to go to.
- Weedend activities Talk about interests such as what the weekends usually have instore.
- Inspiration what have you always wanted to do but keep putting off, career, hobbies, anything.
- Their friends. Their friends will be very important, so critical to them.
- Family understand their family structure and their up bringing will give you alot of information. Be careful with this, if he or she changes the topic fast then leave it for the moment and come back to it on later dates.
- Drinks will come up in bars so you could start with this. Getting to know their favorite drinks is important to many.
Show plenty of interest in the other person, compliment them on their knowledge or achievements. If your impressed, then tell the person how much respect you have for them. This is better than continuously telling a woman how beautiful she is.
The advice is for a first date is, help your date to feel great about themselves, they will attach those feelings of happiness to you, and they will want more of you. It’s simple!
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