Is he the one? Great Expectations for a First Date

Is he the one? Great expectations for dating could stop you being yourself and could spoil your chances of finding and keeping the one.

Your about to go on your first date and your mind is awash with emotions; excitement, nervousness, fears and expectations, followed by so many questions.

“What is he or she going to be like?”
“Is this the relationship I’ve been looking for”
“Will we get on?”
“What will we talk about?”
“What if I know he or she is wrong for me?” 

Potentially the most destructive question for you; Is he the one?

Great expectations dating

Nine times out of ten a date will not meet your expectations, and all the emotion before the date will create disappointment for youwhen you find he’s not the one. After a few dates the whole process starts to becomes a chore rather than an adventure! So looking at your dating differently will change your experience. This is important because if your serious about finding the one, going on many dates could be what has to happen before you find the right person for you. 

Expectations such as “is he the one”will create a false future of what your date could mean to your life, this will make you feel overwelming emotions that will change you and your behaviour on your date, because the pressure is now on you to perform.

STEP AWAY FROM EXPECTATION! 

The best advice we can give you is to change your expectations!

If you go on a date with huge expectations such as “this could be the one, the relationship I’ve always wanted!” You will be let down. If they are “the one” great, but if their not you will be left feeling disappointed. Who likes feeling disappointed? It’s not a great emotion to have, so why set yourself up to feel it?

This is your new expectation for the date!

“No matter what happens on this date,
  I will have a great time!”

If they turn out to not be what you expected, then you can put it down to experience and you might have learnt something new.

Setting this expectation is better, it will change how you behave because the risk to your emotions has now been removed. Your mind and body will now relax. You will now create a state in you that will give you the power to “Just be you!” That’s better for both you and your date!

Relax, have fun and now focus on the date! If you take this attitude to dating then if you do meet ‘the one’, then the chances of messing it up through nerves is greatly reduced.

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Recommended reading

• Dating Without Drama

Recommended reading for her

• “How to Be Irresistible to Men…”
• “Meet & Keep the Right Man”

Recommended reading for him

• “Be the Guy Who Gets the girl”
• “How to be irresistible to women”

Recommended reading for Couples

• “100 Great Sex Games for Couples“